I’d heard about ghosting
, but only in relation to dating scenarios.
But last week, Thursday evening to be exact, the penny dropped.
Someone related to me, someone I share a lifetime of love and memories with,
has cut off contact without offering any kind of explanation.
That realisation has caused me a huge amount of grief.
Tears have been shed.
But here’s the thing.
Why would someone deliberately set out to break off a relationship,
when the other party has no idea what may have caused this to happen?
reports that “one of the most insidious aspects of ghosting is that
it doesn’t just cause you to question the validity of the relationship you had,
it causes you to question yourself.” The article notes that “ghosting gives you no clue
for how to act” and goes on to remind the reader that “… it says nothing about you …
and everything about the person doing the ghosting. It shows he/she doesn’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours … In any case they have sent you an extremely loud message that says: I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship with you.
Be the better person, retain your dignity and let go.”
“Tell yourself there’s nothing more you can do, it’s not personal and accept what is … and then go do something that makes your heart smile …”
And although both articles do reach the same conclusion, neither currently offers me any comfort.
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a ghosting?
Have you ever been the person doing the ghosting?